“ Love doesn’t know its own depth , until the hour of separation ”

“ Love doesn’t know its own depth , until the hour of separation ”

I don’t care how hard being together is, nothing is worse than being apart. We stand a professional distance apart, as if I can’t feel his pain screaming in my head. Mine amplifies his; they share a joint sound—that of glass breaking—until they swell to a crescendo that deafens.

“I know you still love me, but we can’t escape the fact that we can’t be together. I never thought  this was going to happen. So I’m not blaming you for ignoring me as I know it is equally painful for you . I’m not angry, either. I should be because you didn’t discuss with me before arriving at  this decision, but I’m not. I just feel pain. A lot of pain. I thought I could imagine how much this would hurt, but I was wrong.”

I won’t make excuses for his behaviour. He should have told me that he’d come to this decision, that it was too hard for him to continue seeing me, that he didn’t see the point in dragging the hurt out. But I understand why he didn’t.

Sometimes it is hard to remember that there are two sides to every story, that there are two sets of emotions involved, and that there are two human beings separated in actions by the differences in community , family background and their circumstances.

God I’m crying over here. I can’t blame you also as I know you are on a tough road that noone can comprehend right now and I know leaving me is killing you just as it is for me. We just have to have faith that if this is someone that is meant to stay in your life then God will bring him back to us. No matter what, it doesn’t take away the hurt, we all know that and now we have to go through the process of grieving a wonderful relationship. But there are so many things to take away from it . 

And yet it changes nothing… except that understanding brings me peace of mind. Now I can try to move forward without hating him. I can understand that he’s hurting too and he’s reacting in the only way he knows how. I can stop myself from worrying about the little things and try to find peace with the fact that the love of my life is going back to the other side of the world without me. I can remind myself now to have faith in Almighty God, and know that someday maybe he will bring him back to me. Maybe in the form of messages over a distance or a call, or maybe just as a memory… Now I Can’t write more ……….

“If you press me to say why I loved him , I can say no more than because He was He & I was I .”

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I appreciate the support I continue to receive from all of my friends. I am so grateful to have so many people checking in on me, and being angry with him for me. I would like to tell them “Don’t be angry with him as in the end it hurts me a lot , as he is an important part of my life so I can’t hear anything against him. “

But I have to remember that in my heart I know he’s a good person, with a good soul, and the best of intentions. I only keep the very best of people in my life, and I trust that he is one of them. If you could see what I see, you would too.

“You’re my closest friend and you’re thousands of miles away from me …….”

Work , as a Positive Distraction

Work  , as a Positive Distraction

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The road to happiness lies in two simple principles: find what it is that interests you and that you can do well, and when you find it, put your whole soul into it – every bit of energy and ambition and natural ability you have.”  John D Rockefeller III, Philanthropist. This quote has kept us going on in our life . It has helped me stay focused.

We read many stories in newspapers, on the Internet, watch on TV or get to know when talking to others. But we never give a thought that we might experience this someday , I guess we are humans living on hope and optimism.

Future is unpredictable , no one knows what it has in store for us. Personally & Professionally. I thought to myself –  I can’t prevent adversities or tragedies coming my way, but what I  can do is accept reality, handle situation(s) with maturity and move forward in life. So ,  go around and check on how others manage such personal tragedies. Easier said than done. Few wise advises I could recollect :-

§  Be Positive – By looking at things that you still have rather than fretting over what you have lost

§  Support of family and friends – By seeking comfort in togetherness by reaching out to near and dear ones

§  Spirituality and meditation – Seems to be one of the most popular and effective coping mechanism

§  Live to Learn – Look at challenges as opportunities to grow and evolve

Interestingly, one of the researches carried on the survivors of 9/11 actually brought out that ‘remaining positive and having the will to go on’ was one of the most important attributes which helped the victims cope up with this tragedy, better.

Mr. Rockefeller’s quote “ Work became my positive distraction. A means to keep my negative thoughts out of that midget brain. Therapeutic. “

We live in testing and unpredictable times and as they say ‘Change’ is the only constant in our lives- both personally and professionally. Unfortunately, not all the ‘events’ happening around us are favorable or even predictable. Remember the wise saying – ‘What doesn’t kill us only makes us stronger’.

When the going gets tough, the tough gets going. I am sure all of us have our own ways of dealing with challenges and unpleasant incidents. I would love to hear back on how you or anyone whom you know dealt with such situations. What helped you or them maintain a positive attitude in those difficult periods.

Work and Stay positive.

Time ..... Use it or Lose it

Time ..... Use it or Lose it

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If you had a bank that credited your account each morning with $86,400—with no balance carried from day to day—what would you do? Well, you do have such a bank…..TIME. Every morning it credits you with 86,400 seconds. Every night it rules off as “lost” whatever you have failed to use toward good purposes. It carries over no balances and allows no overdrafts. You can’t hoard it, save it, store it, loan it or invest it. You can only use it—time.

Time management is a challenge, which we constantly face through our lives. As a kid balancing time between school, homework, play, sleep and of course doing things you love to do and wanted to do. We carry this challenge to our adult life, where it only gets complicated with multiple demands coming through increased responsibility, both professionally and personally. Research reveals, over the last 20 years, average working time has gone up by 15% and leisure time has gone down by 33%. According to a survey, 40% of adults say if they had more time, they would spend it with family. Quite astonishingly, the we spend about a year of our lives just looking for lost or misplaced items!

I came across this article “First Thing Every Morning”, which gave some interesting points of view and some terrific truths about time.

First: Nobody can manage time. But you can manage those things that take up your time.

Second: Time is expensive. As a matter of fact, 80 percent of our day is spent on those things or those people that only bring us two percent of our results.

Third: Time is perishable. It cannot be saved for later use.

Fourth: Time is measurable. Everybody has the same amount of time…pauper or king. It is not how much time you have; it is how much you use and how you use it.

Fifth: Time is irreplaceable. We never make back time once it is gone.

Sixth: Time is a priority. You have enough time for anything in the world, so long as it ranks high enough among your priorities.

Now go ahead and use all your 86,400 seconds wisely. Every Day.