“ Love doesn’t know its own depth , until the hour of separation ”

“ Love doesn’t know its own depth , until the hour of separation ”

I don’t care how hard being together is, nothing is worse than being apart. We stand a professional distance apart, as if I can’t feel his pain screaming in my head. Mine amplifies his; they share a joint sound—that of glass breaking—until they swell to a crescendo that deafens.

“I know you still love me, but we can’t escape the fact that we can’t be together. I never thought  this was going to happen. So I’m not blaming you for ignoring me as I know it is equally painful for you . I’m not angry, either. I should be because you didn’t discuss with me before arriving at  this decision, but I’m not. I just feel pain. A lot of pain. I thought I could imagine how much this would hurt, but I was wrong.”

I won’t make excuses for his behaviour. He should have told me that he’d come to this decision, that it was too hard for him to continue seeing me, that he didn’t see the point in dragging the hurt out. But I understand why he didn’t.

Sometimes it is hard to remember that there are two sides to every story, that there are two sets of emotions involved, and that there are two human beings separated in actions by the differences in community , family background and their circumstances.

God I’m crying over here. I can’t blame you also as I know you are on a tough road that noone can comprehend right now and I know leaving me is killing you just as it is for me. We just have to have faith that if this is someone that is meant to stay in your life then God will bring him back to us. No matter what, it doesn’t take away the hurt, we all know that and now we have to go through the process of grieving a wonderful relationship. But there are so many things to take away from it . 

And yet it changes nothing… except that understanding brings me peace of mind. Now I can try to move forward without hating him. I can understand that he’s hurting too and he’s reacting in the only way he knows how. I can stop myself from worrying about the little things and try to find peace with the fact that the love of my life is going back to the other side of the world without me. I can remind myself now to have faith in Almighty God, and know that someday maybe he will bring him back to me. Maybe in the form of messages over a distance or a call, or maybe just as a memory… Now I Can’t write more ……….

“If you press me to say why I loved him , I can say no more than because He was He & I was I .”

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I appreciate the support I continue to receive from all of my friends. I am so grateful to have so many people checking in on me, and being angry with him for me. I would like to tell them “Don’t be angry with him as in the end it hurts me a lot , as he is an important part of my life so I can’t hear anything against him. “

But I have to remember that in my heart I know he’s a good person, with a good soul, and the best of intentions. I only keep the very best of people in my life, and I trust that he is one of them. If you could see what I see, you would too.

“You’re my closest friend and you’re thousands of miles away from me …….”

Work , as a Positive Distraction

Work  , as a Positive Distraction

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The road to happiness lies in two simple principles: find what it is that interests you and that you can do well, and when you find it, put your whole soul into it – every bit of energy and ambition and natural ability you have.”  John D Rockefeller III, Philanthropist. This quote has kept us going on in our life . It has helped me stay focused.

We read many stories in newspapers, on the Internet, watch on TV or get to know when talking to others. But we never give a thought that we might experience this someday , I guess we are humans living on hope and optimism.

Future is unpredictable , no one knows what it has in store for us. Personally & Professionally. I thought to myself –  I can’t prevent adversities or tragedies coming my way, but what I  can do is accept reality, handle situation(s) with maturity and move forward in life. So ,  go around and check on how others manage such personal tragedies. Easier said than done. Few wise advises I could recollect :-

§  Be Positive – By looking at things that you still have rather than fretting over what you have lost

§  Support of family and friends – By seeking comfort in togetherness by reaching out to near and dear ones

§  Spirituality and meditation – Seems to be one of the most popular and effective coping mechanism

§  Live to Learn – Look at challenges as opportunities to grow and evolve

Interestingly, one of the researches carried on the survivors of 9/11 actually brought out that ‘remaining positive and having the will to go on’ was one of the most important attributes which helped the victims cope up with this tragedy, better.

Mr. Rockefeller’s quote “ Work became my positive distraction. A means to keep my negative thoughts out of that midget brain. Therapeutic. “

We live in testing and unpredictable times and as they say ‘Change’ is the only constant in our lives- both personally and professionally. Unfortunately, not all the ‘events’ happening around us are favorable or even predictable. Remember the wise saying – ‘What doesn’t kill us only makes us stronger’.

When the going gets tough, the tough gets going. I am sure all of us have our own ways of dealing with challenges and unpleasant incidents. I would love to hear back on how you or anyone whom you know dealt with such situations. What helped you or them maintain a positive attitude in those difficult periods.

Work and Stay positive.

Time ..... Use it or Lose it

Time ..... Use it or Lose it

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If you had a bank that credited your account each morning with $86,400—with no balance carried from day to day—what would you do? Well, you do have such a bank…..TIME. Every morning it credits you with 86,400 seconds. Every night it rules off as “lost” whatever you have failed to use toward good purposes. It carries over no balances and allows no overdrafts. You can’t hoard it, save it, store it, loan it or invest it. You can only use it—time.

Time management is a challenge, which we constantly face through our lives. As a kid balancing time between school, homework, play, sleep and of course doing things you love to do and wanted to do. We carry this challenge to our adult life, where it only gets complicated with multiple demands coming through increased responsibility, both professionally and personally. Research reveals, over the last 20 years, average working time has gone up by 15% and leisure time has gone down by 33%. According to a survey, 40% of adults say if they had more time, they would spend it with family. Quite astonishingly, the we spend about a year of our lives just looking for lost or misplaced items!

I came across this article “First Thing Every Morning”, which gave some interesting points of view and some terrific truths about time.

First: Nobody can manage time. But you can manage those things that take up your time.

Second: Time is expensive. As a matter of fact, 80 percent of our day is spent on those things or those people that only bring us two percent of our results.

Third: Time is perishable. It cannot be saved for later use.

Fourth: Time is measurable. Everybody has the same amount of time…pauper or king. It is not how much time you have; it is how much you use and how you use it.

Fifth: Time is irreplaceable. We never make back time once it is gone.

Sixth: Time is a priority. You have enough time for anything in the world, so long as it ranks high enough among your priorities.

Now go ahead and use all your 86,400 seconds wisely. Every Day.

** 7 Best Motivating Sentences **

1. Take into account that great love and great achievements
involve great risk.

2. When you lose, don't lose the lesson.

3. Follow the three R's :-
      Respect for self
      Respect for others and
      Responsibility for all your actions.

4. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a
wonderful stroke of luck.

5. Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.

6. Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.

7. Open your arms to change, but don't let go of your values :) :)

A Truth .....

Right now, there are people all over the world who are just like you.

They’re lonely. They’re missing somebody. They’re in love with someone they probably shouldn't be in love with. 

They have secrets you wouldn't believe. They wish and they dream and they hope, and they look out the window whenever they’re in the car or on a bus or a train and they watch people on the streets and wonder what they’ve been through. 

They wonder if there are people out there like them. They’re like you, and you could tell them everything and they would understand.

And right now, they’re sitting here reading these words, and I’m writing this for you so you don’t feel alone any more ........... :D :)

MAGIC STORY BEHIND YOUR DATE OF BIRTH

MAGIC STORY BEHIND YOUR DATE OF BIRTH

If U were born on the 1st, 10th, 19th, 28th of any month U r number 1.... If U were born on the 2nd, 11th, 20th, 29th of any month then U r number 2... If U were born on the 3rd, 12th, 21st, 30th of any month then U r number 3... If U were born on the 4th, 13th, 22nd, 31st of any month then U r number 4... If U were born on the 5th, 14th, 23rd of any month then U r number 5... If U were born on the 6th,15th,24th of any month then U r number 6... If U were born on the 7th,16th,25th of any month then U r number 7... If U were born on the 8th,17th,26th of any month then U r number 8... If U were born on the 9th,18th,27th of any month then U r number 9...

Number 1

You are smart, straight talking, funny, stubborn, hardworking, honest,

Jealous on competing basis, kind hearted, angry, friendly, authorities,

Famous person...always want to be and regarded as first on people

Position, they are often like to be independent, will never be under

Others, self confident people!

You are most likely to fall in love in the younger age, but will get

Marry when you mature! You are likely to have problems with people who have opposite views

And you are most likely to take revenge over your

Enemies in a long time basis. You are a spender, but you will have a good profession in the future.

If you are guy you will be very popular that everybody will have mental attraction and respect at you.

You can go anywhere from the local shop to the heart of the parliament because you are positive and

Well talented in numerous issues!! But in your life you will always have some people who will work hard

To bring you&your name down. This is undercover!! Coz of your smart behavior you will be hated by some

People too...

Your family life is very cool, you will have a very nice partner&

Wonderful children... You are pioneer, independent&original... Your best match is 4,6,8 good match is 3,5,7 !!!

Number 2

No matter what, you will be loved by every one coz your ruler is the

Moon and every one loves the Moon. Well.. You are a person who day dream a lot,

You have very low-self confidence, you need back up for every move in your life, you

Are very much unpredictable. Means you do change according to time and circumstances,

Kind a selfish, have a very strong sense of musical, artistic talent, verbal communication.

Your attitudes are like the Moon, comes to gloom and fade away so everybody can expect

Changes in you. You can be a next Mahatma Gandhi who does peace love or you can be a

Hitler who wants to destroy the man kind and peace (I mean in the community and your own home).

If you really have a deep thought about your own believe in God you can

Feel the difference which will make you stronger! Most of the time your

Words are a kind of would be happening true! So without any knowledge

You can predict the situation. You will become poets, writers, any

Artistic business people!

You are not strong in love, so you will be there and here till you get

Marry.. If U r a girl you will be a responsible woman in the whole

Family. If U r a man you will involve in fights&arguments in the family or

Vice-versa. Means you will sacrifice your life for the goodness sake of

Your family...You are gentle , intuitive with a broad vision, a power

Behind the scenes, well balanced People!!!

Your best match is 2 ,5 ,9 no other people can put up with you !!!

Number 3

You are a person of hard hearted, selfish most of the times, religious,

Loves to climb up in your life. You always tend to have lots of problems

Within your family in the early stages but you will put up with everything..

You have the strong word power, pretty happy face.. So wherever you go always

You have got what you wanted!!! And from the birth always wanted to work hard in order

To achieve something.. You will not get

Anything without hard work! When you reach a man/ woman age you want other younger

Once to listen to you because you want younger people to respect people older than them.

You do set so many examples to others. Generally you are not a cool person. It's not easy

thing dealing with you. A tough player you are! But once you like someone's attitud! e then

here you go, what can I say? It will be a lasting friendship. You always have respect from others.

Your life seems to have lots of worries and problems but sure they won't be long.. You will always

have brilliant kids!!! You love the money a bit too much so temptation will push you to endless

trying and trying.. If you are a guy then it's over. Looking after your family and help friends, so you

will spend a life time just being generous and kind (except 21st born men). And number 3s you will

be such an example of how to be in the culture&life!!! If you are girl then you have good character

and culture&hardworking attitude. You always follow. You are a freedom lover, creative, ambition

focused, a person who brings beauty , hope&joy to this world!!!

Your best match 6 ,9. Good match 1 ,3 ,5 !!!

Number 4

You are very stubborn too, very hard working but unlucky in important

matters in life, very cool, helpful, you have rough word power.. Might

put lots of people away from you, you may cause nuisance to others if you are a man,

and you often understands others and their problems well. If you are a girl you are very

good with studies and arts. If you are a guy you spend most of the time after girl friends

(almost) at times, you will have sort of too much fun life with mates&girls. Your friends will

spend your time&money and get away with their life and you will become empty handed and

don't know what to do... So be careful!! You love to spend anyway!!! Your good will is you are

always there to help family and friends. Tell you what you people are little gem! s, specially the girls..

You always fall in love in younger age as well. You often live with disappointments , for an example

you have got a degree in some thing... but you will be unemployed.. or will do very ordinary jobs.

But you will take care of your family very well...All you need to be careful of people who will take

advantage of your kind heart. And beware of your relations too.. You are radical, patient, persistent,

a bit old-fashioned, you live with foundation&order...

Your best Match 1, 8. Good match 5 ,6 , 7 !!!

Number 5

You are very popular within the community, you can get things done by

just chatting..to even enemies! You have a pretty good business mind, you are often

have no-idea what is today is like, or tomorrow is like, you are a person who does anything

when your head thinks"lets do this". You will be famous if you open up a business,

get involve in share dealings, music etc.. Very popular with sense of humor ,you are

the one your friends and families will always ask for help, and you are the one actually

get money on credit and help your friends. You will have more than 1 relationship,

but when u get settle down you will be a bit selfish anyway. Coz your other half will

have a pretty good amount of control in you, be careful! You tend to go for other relationships!

Contacts even you are married at times'coz your popularity.. You are someone who get along

with anyone coz the number 5 is the middle number.. Changes&freedom lovers you are! You are

an explorer with magic on your face. You learn your life through experience and it's your best teacher!!! Your best match 1 ,2 ,9. Good match 6 ,8 !!!

Number 6

Ooopppss..you are born to enjoy..... You don't care about others. I mean

you are always want to enjoy your life time, you are a person.. You will be

very good in either education or work wise or business management! You are talented,

kind (but with only people who you think are nice), very

beautiful girls and guys, popular and more than lucky with anything in

your lives. All the goodness does come with you. Your mind and body is just made perfect for love.

You are lovable by any other numbers. But if you are a number 6 man, you will experience kind of

looks from most girls and will involve in more than few relationships until you get married. If you are girl,

most of you will get marry/engaged early. You are ! a caring

person towards your family&friends . If you miss the half-way mark then you are about to suffer physically

and mentally. Generally you will lead a very good inner-home happiness with nothing short of.... You are a person of compassion, comfort&fairness, domestic responsibility, good

judgment, and after all you can heal this world wounds to make peace for every life coz you have the great

power of caring talent to make this world of love one step further...

Your best match 1, 6, 9. Good match 4, 5!!!

Number 7

You have got the attraction to anyone out there, you are realistic,

very confident, happy, such a talented individual with your education,

music, arts, singing, and most importantly acting too. You have real problems

with bad temper! If you are a girl, you are popular with the subjects listed above.

You give up things for your parents. I mean you value your family status a lot, you will be

in the top rank when you reach a certain age. If you are a guy you are popular with girls,

you are a very talented too. Most of the number 7s face lots of problems with their marriage life.

Only a very few are happy. You have everything in your life, but still always number 7s have some sort of unfullfilness, such worries all their lifetime. It's probably the Lord given you al! l sort of over the

standard humans talents and you are about to suffer in family life. So you need to get ready looking

for a partner rather than waiting. If you don't, then you might end-up single. So take care with this issue,

ok? You are wonderful, friendly, artistic, happy person.. You are born to

contribute lots to this world!!!

Your best match is 2. Good matches are 1,4 !!!

Number 8

You are a very strong personality, there's no one out there will

understand you. You are very good at pointing your finger at some thing and say"this is what".

You are more likely to suffer from the early ages. I mean poverty. If your times are not good

you might lose either of your

parent and end up looking after your entire family. You often suffer all the way in life.

The problems will not allow you to study further, but you will

learn the life in a very practical way. You are the one who will fight

for justice and may die in the war too. You are normally very reserved with handful of

friends and most of the time live life lonely and always

prepared to help others. Well. once you get married (which is often

late) then your bad lucks will go away a bit and you! u become safe. You will face un-expected

problems such as : the error, government, poisonous animals, accidents... You are some one with

great discipline, persistence, courage, strength which will take you to success. You are a great part

of a family team.. You are a fighter!

Your Best match 1 ,4, 8. Good match 5 !!!

Number 9

Hey...you guys are the incompatibles people in the world. You are so

strong, physically and mentally... You are often have big-aims. You will work

hard and hard to get there.

Normally you suffer in the early age from family problems and generally you

will have fighting life.. But when you

achieve what you have done, it's always a big task you have done! You are so much respected in

the community, you are a person who can make a challenge and successfully finish the matter off.

You are very naughty in your younger age, often beaten up by your parents and involve in fights

and you seemed to have lots of injuries in your life time. But when u grow you become calm and macho type.

Love is not an easy matter for you. You are good in engineering or banking jobs coz people always trust you.

Your family life is very good, but will have worries over your children.

Your such qualities are humanitarian, patient, very wise&compassionate.

You are born to achieve targets and serve every one all equally without any prejudice.

You are totally a role model to anybody in the world for a great inspiration.

Your Best match 3, 5, 6, 9. Good match 2